Friday, May 27, 2011

Where Did I Go?

Hi folks!

I know I've been MIA for a few weeks now.  It's just there's been a lot going on.

First, there's this:

Yes, Bug is getting a sibling!  While my due date is December 11, if it's another boy, I will probably go early again (which is the case with boys in my family.  None of them seem to make it past the 38 week mark!). So I've been dealing with the ups and downs of early pregnancy.  (Note: I had NO idea I was pregnant when I wrote that post about what not to say to pregnant women).  Anyway, I am almost twelve weeks along and seem to have gotten past my nausea (I did have morning sickness a couple times.  Bug thought that was hilarious).  The only thing that I am still dealing with is the perennial tiredness.  When the afternoons roll around I seriously watch the clock and pray that my husband won't hit bad traffic.

I really hate it when people say that they were surprised that they are pregnant.  That's a major pet peeve of mine.  However, nobody was more shocked than me when took a pee test and the result was positive.  I literally stared at it for about ten minutes and said, "Huh" over and over. 

So, there's that.  Plus, my sister was visiting last week, and between trying to keep up with my fifteen month old, I've had a bit of a time.

Speaking of my darling, Bug is asleep, which is highly unusual for this time of day.  But I suppose that's what happens when you wake up at 5:30 and refuse to go back to sleep.  I heard him start giggling and I knew I was doomed.  Luckily I got him back down  about an hour and fifteen minutes ago, so I also got to get some rest (but not sleep, as I'm still peeing every fifteen minutes).

Now that I have a pregnancy to blog about, I am sure I won't run out of topics:)

Monday, May 9, 2011

Mommy Time

So, Bug decided that 5 freaking a.m. was a good time for he and I to start the day.  I opened my eyes to see my beautiful boy sitting up and clapping.  When I groaned and closed my eyes again, he signaled his displeasure to me by a well-placed kick to my sternum.

Not impressed.

So I wanted to write today about taking time to be yourself.  I think a lot of the time we, as moms, spend so much time with our kids that sometimes we lose a part of ourselves, and that's not necessarily a good thing.

That's not to say that I don't believe in sacrificing for your kids, because I do.  My parents most certainly did it for me, and I always look to them as my example when I am taking care of Bug.  But I also know that giving up the pursuit of your own dreams isn't a healthy thing.

Some things, obviously, aren't easily attainable while you still have a toddler, but that doesn't mean you still shouldn't try.  For me, my biggest dream is to be a published author.  So when Bug naps, I frequently take time to work on my writing.  I do research.  I query literary agents.  Because I know that I can be a mom, and do this, as well.

So, I guess I'm just trying to say, make sure you don't lose yourself in the mommyhood.  It's easy to do, but it's healthier for you as a person if you look in your heart and see what matters to you.  And it doesn't have to preempt your obligations to your children.

Friday, May 6, 2011

Happy Mother's Day!

Happy Mother's Day weekend to all the wonderful moms out there.  Being a mom is tough, but it's the best job I've ever had and I am so grateful to all the other moms in my life who have been my sources of strength, support, and encouragement.  There are so many moms who have helped me through moments of stress and self-doubt, and I love being in this sorority with you, knowing I always have a shoulder to lean on when I need the support.

And most importantly, Happy Mother's Day to MY mom, who is the most amazing mother I know, and without whose continual support I would not have become the woman I am today.  I love you, Mommy!

This is my mom and Bug last summer, during Bug's first swim in my parents' pool.  As you can see, he's doing what he does best:  trying to eat his flotation device.

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Keep Your Sick Kids At Home!

I vaccinate Bug on a delayed schedule.  He's had a few minor reactions to shots (low fever, irritability, swollen legs) and so I never let him get more than one or two shots at a time.  So even though he is slightly behind other kids in terms of immunizations, he is fully vaccinated (although there are some shots, like the flu shot, I have chosen to opt out of). But that's not really what this post is about.

This post is about the fact that if your child is sick, keep him (or her!) at HOME!

You see, friends, I am fairly fanatical about Bug's health and if he has so much as a bad runny nose, we don't go ANYWHERE.  Sometimes it sucks, but the fact of the matter is, my baby comes first.  If he's sick, we stay home and cuddle and read stories.  That doesn't mean, however, that I don't understand that it sucks to be home with your kid and not be able to go anywhere.

But really, what the HECK are you thinking when you drag your sick kids out and about?

I say this because Bug and I attended a birthday party a few weeks ago for one of the little boys in our Mommy group.  One of the other moms apparently brought her child there with the Rotavirus.
THE ROTAVIRUS.

Not only was this mother aware of the fact that her  kid had the Rotavirus (it's not hard to figure out--lots of diarrhea, dehydration, lack of desire to eat or drink), but she exposed all of the other kids at that party to it.  And some of them weren't vaccinated against it, and two children even wound up in the ER.
The lack of responsibility here floors me.  Like I said, it sucks when your kid is sick and you can't go anywhere.  I've had to pass on activities I've really wanted to do because Bug's had a cold or whatever.  And I know that some illness-spreading is inevitable, as a kid might have a slightly runny nose which turns into the Niagra Falls of runny noses later, but that's not a serious illness, people.

So anyway, please, if your child is sick, keep them home!  Go out when he or she is feeling better, you'll have a much better time that way anyway!


Sunday, May 1, 2011

Fears of a New Mom

Now that Bug is 14 months old, I have relaxed in a lot of ways. You see, I was a bit, um, highly strung.

First off, when I was pregnant with him, I spotted from Week 4 to Week 6, which is not uncommon, but was still stressful for me. Plus, we had confided our news in a family member who was part of the medical profession, who, instead of sharing comforting words with me, said, "Well, about 30% of first pregnancies end in miscarriage."

Hmm, I should probably add that to my post about what not to say to pregnant women.

Anyway, after the spotting stopped, I breathed a little sigh of relief, and I did okay until I was about ten weeks, when I had my subchorionic bleed.

And then, at 29 weeks, a blood vessel on my cervix burst and I had some spotting again.

Oh, and then we had a vicious snowstorm when I was 35 weeks, and I was convinced I was going to have to deliver my baby in my bathtub.

So anyway, I had a bit of a stressful pregnancy, and you would have thought I might have gotten some sort of reprieve after Bug was born, healthy and beautiful.

Fat chance.

First off, Bug had jaundice. Here's a picture of us when he's little little, and you can see (compared to my extreme whiteness) how bad it was. So that freaked me out.

But what I was the most petrified of was SIDS.

The idea that this baby could be ripped away from me with no explanation shook me to my very core. And I was determined to do all I could to protect him.

So, I wanted to share what I learned from doing my research.

First off, SOME SIDS cases are preventable. There are lots of ways to reduce SIDS--in fact, one of them is the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends keeping your child in your room with you until he or she reaches six months of age. The peak ages for SIDS are between two and four months, with the risk going down to almost nothing after six months. While I want to be very clear here and say that the AAP does NOT advocate for cosleeping, they do endorse keeping your child in your room, in a separate bed. A cosleeper is great for this. You can also use a pack n play or a portacrib. I know some people who have even moved their babies' cribs into their rooms, but the layout of my bedroom would not allow for that! But the reason why this is effective is babies will match their breathing to that of their parents, and will not "forget to breathe."

Secondly, using a fan has been known to reduce the risk of SIDS. This is because the constant circulation of air reduces the rebreathing of carbon dioxide, which is also thought to contribute to SIDS.

Thirdly, make sure your baby does NOT overheat. This was a big fear of mine, especially since Bug seems to have the same body temperature as his father--about two degrees higher than my cool 97! He also wouldn't tolerate being swaddled after about two months, and when I moved him into the Halo Sleepsacks, I have to say, my worries about his body temperature dropped.

Now, as I've mentioned before, I coslept with Bug a lot, and I continue to do so. But I am also very aware of him when I sleep. I have trained my body to wake up pretty much any time he stirs in his sleep. And while cosleeping has worked for us, it's not for everybody, and sadly, it has been blamed in some SIDS cases, because parents will roll over onto the child. Heavy sleepers shouldn't cosleep. Be safe with your baby.

I apologize for my recent lapse in posting, but I haven't been feeling well and dealing with a toddler who is FINALLY figuring out walking might be okay has been taking all of my energy. But I promise to do better in the future:)