Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Are Girls REALLY Easier Than Boys?

One of the things that I was totally dreading about revealing my pregnancy was the inevitable slew of comments and speculation about the gender of the baby.  For the record, I'm not actually sure what this one is.  I knew Cat was a boy without a doubt and I suspected the same of Bug, but with him I wasn't really certain until we saw that baby penis up on the screen:)  This baby, however, is throwing me for a loop:  I have had dreams that it's a girl and dreams that it's a boy, and I don't feel as connected with Baby as I did with, say, Bug (which makes sense, because when I was pregnant with Bug I wasn't chasing after two crazy kids).  But I am looking forward to finding out, in the hopes that everyone will shut the (expletive) up.

And obviously they won't, because no matter what, I will have to listen to people's insensitive comments.  And I'm already getting some fantastic ones, such as, "Oh, I really hope you don't wind up stuck with three boys"and "Will you be disappointed if it's not a girl?"  And really, what am I supposed to say to either of those?  And then there are all the people who keep telling me how much they want me to have a girl, but for those I actually have the witty response of, "Well, my uterus doesn't take requests."


Look, yes, it would be nice to have a girl, but the fact of the matter is, I don't have magical powers which would enable me to tell this baby what to be.  But that's not the point of this post; rather, I am going to delve into something that someone else said to me.

One of my unmarried, childless girlfriends (whom I love) made the comment that she hoped I was having a girl as they are "much easier."  And I didn't respond to that, because if the daughters of my friends are any indication, girls AREN'T much easier.  In fact, all of the girls that I see are pretty much harder to parent than my duo.

Perhaps she was suggesting that little girls are less destructive than boys?  Perhaps, but Bug isn't really destructive (except when he gets a hold of a pen and insists on taking it apart).  He is really good about picking up his toys and putting things away (he has to be supervised and reminded of where to put things, but I think he's doing pretty well for a two and a half year old).  But when he gets together with his little girlfriend, well....I have seen them destroy my living room in a matter of minutes, and she's just as much of a culprit as he is:)

Which is fine!  But I don't understand this mentality that girls are so much easier than boys.  Boys certainly tend to be a little more rambunctious, but Bug and Cat are both sooooo sweet.  Bug loves to cuddle up with me and read, and Cat is getting more into that (now that he's mobile he's way more into crawling and cruising around and attempting to kill himself every time I look away from him for a half a second).  And here's a list of things that my friends' little girls do that Bug would never do (can't say about Cat yet, but I know for a fact my oldest would never do the following things):

-fight me about getting into the carseat (I actually can't lift Bug anymore, so he climbs in on his own now.  SO NICE).
-tell me, "Go away, Mommy!"
-refuse to let me dress him
-refuse to try on shoes at the store
-throw food at me (he did when he was a baby, but now he knows better.)

And now, here's a list of awesome things my oldest boy does:
-randomly comes up to me all day long and hugs and kisses me, and says, "Wuv woo, Mommy."
-helps with the following household chores:  washing, putting away clothing, hanging up/taking down diapers, sweeping, picking up toys, unloading the dishwasher
-climbs into my lap multiple times a day with a book in his hands
-always holds my hand when I extend it to him

Obviously, some of those will change as he gets older, but I don't think I could ask for more.  I think boys and girls' behavior should not be judged by gender, but rather personality.  Some girls have strong personalities and love to run and play as much as boys do.  Some boys have unmatched sweetness and I know on my end, I wouldn't trade my two little dudes for the world.

So I ask those of you who have children of both genders...which was easier for you?

1 comment:

  1. I don't have kids, so I can't answer... Although I do think when they are older boys are easier...
    BUT I would like to say, boy or girl, it's a lucky kid. If it's a boy -- well if it ain't broke, dont' fix it -- you've done a marvelous job thus far with your boys. And if it's a girl then that's great too. I just hope it's healthy. Oh, & I hope everyone else just SHUTS UP. People are rude. Don't let it stress you out.